Stephen John Tober

Stephen John Tober, 68, of Holmdel, New Jersey, died on June 3, 2026. He was born on April 11, 1958, in Leominster, Massachusetts.

Stephen lived most of his life in Monmouth County, New Jersey. A graduate of Shore Regional High School, he spent much of his career driving trucks and operating heavy machinery, including licensed work for Stavola Brothers and other companies over the years. Those who worked with him knew him as intelligent, handy, and dependable. Mechanically inclined and always willing to get his hands dirty, he was a hardworking problem-solver who got the job done.

Stephen loved the water. An avid fisherman and boater, he was happiest at the Jersey Shore whether that was out on a boat, on the beach, or up on a jetty with a rod in hand. He also had a lifelong love of music, always listening, often attending live performances, and sometimes even trying his own hand at things like the drums and harmonica. A devoted animal lover, he could spot wildlife from a mile away and was hardly ever without a pet, and usually had more than one.

Above all, he was a storyteller and a natural conversationalist who could strike up a conversation and make a friend of just about anyone. He loved cracking jokes, being a little goofy, and was always looking for new ways to have fun.

Stephen served his country honorably in the United States Navy.

He was predeceased by his mother, Edna, and his father, Donald. Stephen is survived by his daughter, Kaitlin Tober; his son, Stephen Tober, and his wife and daughter; his siblings, Linda Flores-Tober and her husband Carlos Flores, Michael Tober and his wife Patty Tober, Jane Scott and her husband Tom Scott, David Tober and his wife Tricia Tober, and Donna Robertson and her husband John Robertson; and two nieces and six nephews.

Stephen will be remembered for his humor, his stories, and his gift for connecting with people. 

A memorial gathering will be held on Monday, June 15, 2026 from 6 pm until the time of the service at 7:30pm. Interment will be held on Tuesday at 11 am at the Brigadier General William C. Doyle Veterans Memorial Cemetery, 350 Province Line Road, Wrightstown, NJ 08562, please arrive by 10:45 am. The family invites you to leave a letter of condolence by selecting the Tribute/Guestbook link above.

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